Fatherhood Isn’t As Easy As Neil Patrick Harris Thought

Neil Patrick Harris has realized one thing being a father – it’s not easy.

The first time dad and his partner, David Burtka, have twins Gideon Scott and Harper Grace via a surrogate.

“Once we got home it was a bit of a shock,” Neil admits.

“Everybody said, ‘You’re going to look into their eyes and you’re never going to feel love burst forth like you feel… I’m like, not so much.

“I’m just a caregiver. They’re still so young.

“David and I thought it would be good to not swaddle them and to not pacify them and to have them figure stuff out on their own. And at this point we are like ‘Whatever it takes!’ A shot of whiskey, whatever you need just stop fussing.

“Gideon, our son, he’s a great burper. He sleeps all the time.

“Harper’s been a lot fussier. She’s had some sort of lower GI [gastrointestinal problem]. She’s always kind of working through something. It feels awful though, all you want as a parent is to make sure they’re OK and that they’re comfortable and they’re calm.”

“We went to an osteopath,” Neil adds. “[Harper] sort of snapped and is kind of a different person. Everything’s much better. I’m a huge fan of that!”

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Comments

  1. samsmom says

    How sad to only feel like only a caregiver to your child. Also, these guys need to read a book. Swaddling an infant does not spoil them. Babies need to feel secure. They are not capable of “figuring stuff out on their own” at such a young age. Everything they know about the world comes from their parents and that includes having their every need met; physical and emotional.

  2. inevercomment says

    Neil says: “Everybody said, ‘You’re going to look into their eyes and you’re never going to feel love burst forth like you feel… I’m like, not so much.

    “I’m just a caregiver. They’re still so young.
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    Neil, don’t expect that feeling to come with age. If you don’t have it with them now, I bet you don’t ever really get it. You are right. You are just a caregiver. I see some attachment issues at hand.

    • bhline says

      I think you are a bit harsh. Many mom’s and dad’s don’t feel instant love with their newborns…it is normal to take a few weeks or even months for it to set in.

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