Nadya Suleman may be at fault and be a very irresponsible woman, but this was only possible with modern scienetific advances in fertility medicine. Without which, she would probably have just two children! As much as many people find her deplorable she is simply a woman with some sort of mental illness/instabilty. think she has sought public attention, but that it just another form of her mental illness and she pobabl;y is feeling a bit desperate as she is realizing the enormous challenge she is now facing to emotionally and financuially provide for 18 children. I would be totally freaked out!
It also seems that her mother has really turned on her which is sad. The mother has very right to be upset with her daughter’s choices, but I think that her choice to air her greivances in public is very innecessary and undoubtedly hurtful to her daughter…and someday could be hurtful to her grandchildren when they are old enough to understand.
It is a very sad situation. The kids are very cute, and it will probably be hard for them to have a normal upbringing.
The more I think about it, the more I feel compassion for this woman. Right after childbirth is a very emotionally vunerable time for women, and think how it must feel to be receiving death threats and having absolutely horrible things said about you. If anything, her story will prove to be a cautionary tale both to women who seek out fertility treatments and fertility doctors. It isn’t as though she is going to inspire women to do make the choices that she has made. I do not think that she should be “grandly” rewarded for her choices though…with multi-million dollar book/movie deals, and the such. That could make some uneducated women think that they will also be rewarded by having a newsworthy amount of children. I do hope that she will have adequate resources to provide for her children though. I resisted posting excessively about her because I didn’t want to be complicit in promoting her celebrity status, but it is an unavoidable fact that her story has been quite a thought and conversation provoking news story. While women are having less children due to waiting longer to have children, prefering smaller families, education and wonderful birth control options, an increasing number of women are having multiples due to fertility medicine. Though unspoken, a trend seems to be emerging in which wealthy women (including many celebrities and wives of the business and sports elite are the ones having large families..some naturally and probably many more with fertility medicine, and that is celebrated….not just found acceptable and smiled upon, but exalted! Such a woman is seen as an inspiration…a saint! In contrast, poor women seem to be increasingly admonished for expanding their families. Fueling this is undoubtedly the relatively new reality that birth control creates…women are almost completely in control. Some would say that a woman who has children that she cannot afford is either uneducated or immoral. (And an unmarried woman who deliberately has eighteen children that she cannot afford to support is downright deviant) Though it was always impractical to have more children than one could afford, before the dawn of birth control women received more compassion, sympathy and support. With the advent of birth control, pregnancies rarely “just happen.” Therefore women today face much more criticism, judgement and condemnation.
The media is playing an interesting role due to the influence of Angelina Jolie and many young celebs embracing motherhood and making it look so effortless and stylish. I have no doubt that Angelina Jolie influenced Nadya! It seems that the inspiration of Angelina (the goddess of motherhood!) and Nadya’s “only child trauma” combined to produce the perfect storm in her mind! And then an unethical fertility doctor allowed her wishes to be realized.
The sense of scarcity that many people feel right now due to the current economic instability has most certainly also contributed to the furor over this story.