Matt Damon's Mother On The Effect Of Media Violence On Children

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With the publication this week of Taking Back Childhood: Helping Your Kids Thrive in a Fast-Paced, Media-Saturated, Violence-Filled World Nancy Carlsson-Paige hopes to spark a dialogue about the ways that violence in the media takes a toll on healthy childhood development.

There is an elephant in the room. Her son Matt Damon has starred in some of the more violent mainstream movies of the past few years – “The Departed” and “The Bourne Ultimatum,” to name a couple.

In an interview in her Somerville row house she speaks publicly for the first time about the violence in Matt’s movies.

“Do I wish my son didn’t make movies with so much violence? Yes,” says Carlsson-Paige, who has earned national acclaim for her groundbreaking work on the impact of media violence on children. “In my perfect world, our artists would show us a way out of the violence we are immersed in instead of perpetuating it. But what I wish for even more is that society didn’t crave violence so much, because it perpetuates a cycle of violence that only produces an appetite for more and more of it. What I focus on is that we have to find ways to protect children from exposure.”

She would like for it to be illegal to market a film or its spinoff toys and products to children younger than the age for which the movie is rated. She is about to embark on a speaking tour to talk about that issue.

Damon says his mother’s views are always in his mind. “I’ve always made my decision about what movies to make with an eye toward these issues,” he says over the phone from London, where he was taking a break from shooting “The Green Room” in Morocco. “I’ve grown up knowing about all this, after all. As a high school kid, I’d come home to find my mom in the living room watching TV cartoons, counting acts of violence, and I would watch with her, to see what she was looking for. . . . I accept and agree with what she says – that it desensitizes kids, that there could be blowback from it.”

His concern led him to refuse to allow his likeness to be licensed for any “Bourne” toys or video games. “I lobbied hard [with the video producers] to not make a first-person shooter game but to make it more like Myst, which was a great interesting puzzle you tried to solve – you know, to play with his amnesia or his memory,” he says. “They weren’t interested. They made the video anyway, without my likeness.” He adds, “I’d like to think that I at least made them more aware of the issues. That’s step one. Step two is changing behavior. I learned that from my mom, too.”

It was 1984 when Carlsson-Paige realized how media violence was changing childhood. An early childhood educator at Lesley University, she was giving a math workshop for teachers. “All they wanted to talk about was what they called ‘war play’ – the way boys in their classroom were acting more aggressively, how their play was changing,” she says.

A divorced mother raising two sons, her interest was piqued. (Her name, which she changed after her divorce from Kent Damon, is a combination of her mother’s maiden name, Carlsson, and her own birth name, Paige.) She and colleague Diane Levin, now a professor at Wheelock College, surveyed teachers in 19 states. They determined the phenomenon was nationwide. It didn’t take much for them to find the cause: The federal government had lifted limits to allow marketing to children on television.

The link they made between the change in play and the influence of what is commonly known as deregulation was a proverbial “a-ha” moment that reverberated throughout the early childhood field. It led to Carlsson-Paige and Levin’s first of four book collaborations, “The War Play Dilemma.”

Now a professor at Lesley, Carlsson-Paige looks at any change in the culture and wonders what it means for child development. It’s a question that’s been haunting her since Jan. 25, 1990, when Kyle’s childhood best friend, Jesse McKie, was stabbed to death on a Cambridge street. Five teenage boys wanted his leather jacket.

“How did those young men who killed Jesse come to do that? How were they capable of doing that?” she asks.

The oft-offered socioeconomic reasons of inequality never satisfied her. It was in looking for something deeper that she arrived at the premise for “Taking Back Childhood,” which is dedicated to McKie.

“Today’s average child spends four to four and a half hours [a day] in front of a screen,” she says. “That’s time not spent interacting with other children or parents; time not spent at play, thinking about what you want to do and creating ways to do it; time not spent gaining the experience of taking another person’s view point and working out conflicts peaceably. These are losses for children. They are dramatic changes in childhood. They concern me very much.”

Her goal in writing the book, she says, is to give parents a big-picture look at how the culture is affecting childhood and to provide coping skills for the day-to-day struggles that arise from cultural issues, such as children’s exposure to too many ads, or repeatedly seeing messages that say might makes right.

“There are so many negative messages in the culture these days, it’s hard for parents to even recognize them any more,” Carlsson-Paige says.

Ever a realist, she acknowledges that some people will buy her book only because it’s written by Matt Damon’s mother. (Groupies’ alert: The book contains about seven anecdotes from Matt’s childhood.) She’s not offended. “I just hope they read it once they buy it,” she says.

That’s awesome that she is doing this important work to protect children!



  1. Lauren says

    I agree. People have always been fascinated by violence in t.v. and the movies but just these past few years, it’s become more and more commonplace with movies like Hostel, etc.. Its great that Matt’s mom is taking a stand.

  2. says

    Awareness and Censorship are two different things. Unless parents are aware of the affects violence has on children, parents are unable to make and informed decision. I fully support openness with children. I do not believe in sheltering either of my children, but sheltering and protecting are two different things. I am most concerned about video games and the amount of parents who use the television as a babysitter. There is nothing wrong iwth putting a movie on when mom is trying to tidy up the house or make a phone call, but this is often overused.

  3. Jx2 says

    I grew up watching television which is why I have such an aversion to it now. Although I must admit, I do watch a lot of films/movies on DVD and occasionally a really good TV series on DVD…like Dexter or The Sopranos.

    2teens that is exactly my way of thinking too. You’re on the same level of thinking as I am with this topic.

  4. squeeky sue says

    It is so sad that these days most parents use the TV as a baby sitter, when most kids would love to go fly a kite, camp, or go rock climbing. What we as parents need to do is spend more TIME with our kids not more MONEY on them

  5. 2teens says

    Matt’s mom seems like a real go-getter.
    I actually think that cartoon violence is harmless, but that the more realistic violence can be harmful to the younger kids who are not capable of understanding that its not real. I do think it’s up to the parents to monitor what young kids watch. I am anti-censorship as a rule. My two kids are much older than many of the posters here and I let them watch what they want and read what they want. If they have questions about anything I am always as honest with them as possible.

  6. says

    This is a great and relevent article. I had no idea what Matt’s mom did. I have a hard time picturing anyone but Damon playing Bourne, though. Media is very violent for children and raising awareness needs to happen. I wonder if Matt could be a spokesperson for a commercial regarding this point in the previews to his movies?

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