Pham Thu Dung, the biological mother of Pax Thien Jolie, says she’s happy that her child has found a new life with Angelina Jolie and Brad Pitt.
The British newspaper News of the World tracked Pham Thu Dung down in the Vietnam neighborhood she calls home and talked to the 29-year-old about why she gave Pax up for adoption in 2003. Though Pham Thu Dung admits that she’s presently incapable of taking care of the three-year-old, she hopes that one day in the future he’ll call her “mother” again.
On giving Pax up for adoption:
“I am not his mother anymore because I abandoned him. I saw his face in the newspapers and I wanted to recognize him but I couldn’t. He was a stranger to me. I wanted to forget all about him but it hurts so much to see his face and hear about everything that is happening to him. It brings all the pain back to me. My dream is that one day he’ll visit me and call me mother. But it’s only a dream, I know it’s impossible.”
On Angelina adopting Pax:
“I want to see my son again and tell him I’m so sorry I had to give him away. I am very happy for him. I hope he has a good life now. He is better off with the movie star because I am not a good mother. I wasn’t able to take care of my baby.”
On her hopes for the future:
“I realize I am not capable of looking after him. I can’t even feed myself properly, let alone a baby as well. I only eat one meal a day. I just hope one day I will see him just to see how he is and looks. I want to know that he’s ok and that his new mother loves him.”
On her parents signing the adoption papers without her knowledge:
“There is nothing I can do. I can’t change what has happened.”
On Pax’s father leaving her during the pregnancy:
“I kept my baby because I thought my boyfriend would marry me. I wanted to keep the baby and live with him. I trusted him, but he left me.”
On taking two fixes of heroin a day:
“I really want to give up. I know drugs might kill me. If I can manage it, I will live a normal life. I really miss my grandmother and my family. I want to sort myself out and go home. But until I can give up drugs, I know I can never go home. I know my father is angry with me and I know the neighbors will laugh at my family. I don’t want my son to be ashamed of me when he grows up.”
Hours after meeting with News of the World, Pham Thu Dung was picked up by police and escorted to her family’s home. A friend who was with her at the time told the paper that her parents have been ordered to keep her there or she faces jail-time.
That is so heartbreaking. This poor woman… Obviously she was unable to care for her son, but it must be so hard for her.