Breastfeeding Debate Continues

I just came across this article and am still shocked that anyone would question a mother’s right to breastfeed her child! You can read the article here.



  1. Loving Mother says

    I also Breast feed my son in public and tho i don’t pop out the boob to let the world see. I don’t always use something to hide it. My son like me does not care what people have to say he is a baby who knows it as nothing more than his food. And I look it as the same. Why are people getting so pissed over nothing. Its a damn boob god made them for one reason and one reason only. If they don’t want to see don’t look. Turn and walk away.

    Don’t get me wrong whipping it out shouldn’t be the deal but properly feeding you child because there hungry is natural. Would you want to be starved? Any one who answers yes is an idiot.

    I’m going to worry abt my child and what best for them and feeding them is a first and i’ll do it properly any where no matter what people feel or think.

  2. sharon says

    What is with people? It seems it is usually the people who did not breast feed their babies or could not that have the most problems with it. I breastfed all 3 of my kids, for 9 months, 10 months and 13 months. It isn’t as easy as my baby is hungry so how about just sticking a bottle in their face to keep them happy. None of my kids would even take a bottle, so if I needed to feed my babies in public I did, discreetly of course. If I had a dirty look it was as simple as this, would you rather look away and not be rude staring at me feeding my child or listen to a screaming baby in the middle of a mall. Cause let me tell you all my kids have lungs, and none of them were ever afraid to use them.

  3. KMisaHO says

    D’Anna (#30)…not everyone has the desire to breastfeed. It is a personal choice. Those of us who chose (for some reason or another) NOT to breastfeed, should not be made to feel like bad mothers. Telling us to do “our research” and that formula isn’t even good enough for an adult to drink is a bunch of crap! Every mother wants the best for her children. Who cares if its breastmilk or formula…atleast the children are getting fed! And if you would like to compare your (obviously breastfed) children’s immune systems with my formula fed childrens…go right ahead. My son (4 1/2) has NEVER gone to the doctors for being sick! He got his first sniffles at 19 months old. He’s never had ear infections, croup, allergies, ashma, the flu, etc…. Must be all those good “whey” by-products!

  4. Kelly says

    #23 – I understand the pain..about 1 week of red hot nails being driven up my nipples…but it was better after that week. Weaned my 3 year old then was pregnant again in 3 months…nursing didn’t hurt the second time…

    we’re discreet, but still get dirty looks…oh well…I’d rather not have a hungry, distressed, screaming kid…they’re problem, not mine.

    btw, my 1st never said “I want..” (and we taught her a decent code word..). After 2 years or so, it was just a soothing bedtime ritual, like a nighttime bottle or snack…she started using cupsat 6 months…

  5. says

    12, 13, 14, 17–Get over yourselves. Do some research on breastfeeding. Infant formula is made mainly of whey, a by-product that isn’t even good enough to go into the milk YOU drink!

    It’s easy to explain to a teenage boy about women at the beach but it’s too sexual to explain a baby eating what nature intended? Next time you want to bitch about seeing a woman breastfeeding a baby in public, take your food to the bathroom and eat it there and maybe you’ll get the point.

  6. BC Girl says

    his is getting kinda carried away. Nobody on this thread has said anything about a mother ‘should not breast feed in public” … OBVIOUSLLY, the point that is trying to be made is, do not whip your boob out in plain view to every person within a mile from you, then pick up your baby from the stroller and slowly carry your baby up to your breast as you are laughing and talking with your friend beside you. Your baby then finally starts breastfeeding (about 2 minutes after you have whipped your boob out in plain view)… then whip your other boob out in plain view and turn your baby around so that he can drink from the other breast now, both boobs are just dangling there…… this is a case that I know obviouslly does not happen much in public. But I have seen it happen before, and that is what people are trying to say is rude, wrong, and disrespectful to everyone else around you. As long as Mama is covered up (even at least somewhat, with a small blanket) that is great!!! I know that I will be breast feeding all my children, but I will NEVER put the public in the situation that I mentioned above. How can you not make it a sexual thing when a ladies boobs are just there for everyone to see. Just cover it up!!!! Then nobody can even complain ladies 🙂

  7. says

    Okay…….the the dumb that have a problem with the breast feeding in public if they eat on the toilet in a public restaurant or who have to eat in a car……then maybe they could get the picture…’s natural……I bet they where breast fed but just don’t know it…….give me a break they really need a life

  8. Heather says

    Babies have to eat, and breast feeding is the most natural way. I think the offense (at least to me) is when a woman just pops it out to feed her child. If its under a blanket its no big deal for most people.

  9. Stephanie says

    I am a breastfeeding mother of a 14 month old, and I do intend to continue until it is comfortable for him to wean. World Health Organization recommends 2 years of breastfeeding. I personally always carry a blanket with me in the diaper bag (just a light one) and even if I don’t cover up the baby I’ll cover up my upper body. If someone were to say something to me, I’d be ready to defend myself, but I do not go out in places and look for trouble or challenges. I’m not a confrontational person, but I will stick to my beliefs if they are challenged. What we need though is more campaigning for more comfortable nursing areas. Some malls I’ve seen have designated nursing areas and I thought it was ingenious and sooo nice to have.

  10. sally says

    This is a ridiculous thread..really. Everyone is talking AT eachother. Yes, we in America tend to sexualize breasts..that is why you need to cover up. Very simple. If you were in Africa you wouldn’t have to cover up because there natural really means natural! I am really, really, really REALLY tired of the breastfeeding debate. And BTW..if your kid is asking for ‘boobies’…he/she is way too old to be nursing! You can give breastmilk in A CUP but for goodness sakes…that takes it way beyond natural and its just being selfish.

  11. Boo says

    You should never feel like you let your baby down, breastfeeding him for a week did a lot…. some mothers just feed for the first 2 or 3 days then go to the bottle…. any amount that you do feed him is a good amount, and to the mothers that didn’t breastfeed at all doesn’t make you a bad mommy, formula is just as good as breastmilk as far as I’m concerned… it’s got the nutrients and such that the baby needs.
    Now on the topic of going to the bathroom to feed in public, What if lets say you are somewhere that doesn’t have a bathroom to use or any shelter at all, say for instance you’ve taken an older child to the park where there is no bathroom, and you didn’t bring a blanket, there are parents and kids all over the place and your baby is screaming cuz they are hungry…. Are you going to let it scream til you get home….I for one would not!….thats what our boobs are for (when breastfeeding) is to feed our hungry child and I couldn’t let my child stay hungry out of respect to everyone at that park, I would certainly try and cover up what I could to be a little more discreet, but if the other parents had a problem with it then I’d have to tell them where to go….Breastfeeding is a beautiful, natural thing…. it shouldn’t be an issue with anyone. It should be accepted and embraced by Everyone!

  12. JADE says

    Hi i’m a 20yr old mum of two(aged3and2) i breastfed my first for aabout a week but than it hurt to much and he went on the bottle and when i was asked by older women if i was breastfeeding and i’d say no and say that it hurt too much they would say stuff like ‘oh that’s all part of it’ but what they didn’t realise is it felt like red hot poker sticks were being jabbed into my breast.
    Than i had my second and i’m still breastfeeding her it hurt but i relly wanted to give it a shot and although i’ve never had dirty looks or felt that i HAD to use the toilets(well the mother’s room) i did because i didn’t feel comfortable with my body even with a blanket being exposed in public so i say well done to those who do feed in public because if your comfortable with it you shouldn’t let people bring you down for settling and feeding you baby

  13. Tiffany says

    I would rather see someone breastfeeding than just having all their boobs out there as well. I do not think that it is appropriate for anyone at any age to flaunt it to the point of being offensive. I think that people tend to look at breastfeeding the same as flaunting yourself even though one has nothing to do with the other. Unfortunately society has such a perverted look at everything now that something this natural has become taboo. Like I said before it is the few disrespectful ones out there that put the rest of the breastfeeding moms on the hot seat.

  14. Sabrina says

    I don’t think anything is wrong with breastfeeding in itself, even in public. However I DO think women should be discreet, and cover up. I understand you need to feed your baby but that still doesn’t give you the right to act like you don’t need to cover up. Yes we all know it’s natural but still it’s a private thing. I understand most women do cover up which to me is respecting other people, and themselves at the same time. I also half agree with Cass, I think women should just cover up period. However if I had to I’d rather see someone breastfeeding, then just flaunting for no reason.

  15. Cass says

    I’m mostly a lurker on here, but some of the things you women are saying is ridiculous! I BF my son until 19 months (WHO actually recommends going until at least 2 years). I never saw another mom just let it “flop out” and still haven’t in the past year since I stopped. That seems to be the only thing people have to bitch about. They don’t want to see anything, but the majority of nursing moms don’t want you to see anything either, which is why they are usually discreet. I have seen more boob (and yes, some nipple even) from girls/women wearing low cut shirts just walking around the mall than I have from moms nursing their baby. That can probably be said for most women on here, yet I don’t see anyone starting a huge debate about whether women should have the right to wear revealing clothes. Personally, I would rather my son see a mother breastfeeding than a female walking around with her boobs all but hanging out the top of her shirt.

  16. Bran says

    One thing that you just said that is correct is that it is not about sex. Believe me, there is nothing sexual about it to me or my boys. I said that I didn’t want them to see it, not that they have the same opinion. As much as the breastfeeding mother wants respect, they should also respect the opinions of other who don’t want to see it. I don’t think that I need to educate my kids at a pre-teen and early teen age about it. Let them worry about finding out who they are first, not about the issues of breastfeeding.

  17. Heather says

    #17 – you don’t want your teen boys to see a mother breastfeeding her child? If they are sexualizing that then it’s their problem (and yours if you aren’t educating your kids that breastfeeding is natural and healthy thing for babies) – not her’s.

    The problem is this country’s ability to sexualize everything. It’s not about sex. If you feel it’s inappropriate than you are sexualizing it. If you are sexualizing it then you are wrong, not the breastfeeding mother.

    It’s all about perspective and breastfeeding is just that – feeding a child. There is nothing inappropriate about it and it’s not a personal experience that needs to be hidden. Thank goodness there are laws protecting a mother’s right to breastfeed in public.

  18. Bran says

    This issue is my biggest pet peeve. Keep it discreet and private! I have two children of my own, this was not a preference for me EVER! I don’t want to see it, I don’t want my teen boys to see it!

  19. carleigh says

    I breast fed both girls for the first 3 months and I told a story about being at a restauant and having a man come to the table and actually tell me to “take it to the bathroom” because I was “ruining” his meal…I told him to take his damn steak dinner to the bathroom and EAT it if I offended him then maybe he was just a little to intent on staring at me hoping to “catch a glimpse”. It really pissed me off big time. I think that’s the problem with society in general. We have pop stars running around showing nipples and vagina’s to every paparazzi who swarm around them and WE mothers who breastfeed in public (discreetly I might add)…we are the ones deemed offensive??? OMG..I’ll bet if we showed up with our tits hanging out at a construction site the men would be flabbergasted and slack jawed, but breastfeeing is taboo! Gimme a break!

  20. Jenn says

    The problem is, once kids get between 6-12 months (if you’re bfing the AAP recommended year), a lot of the time they get pissed if you cover them and throw it off.

    I’m fine with moms that formula feed, although I have to admit sometimes I wonder if they did at least try to BF once, since that is why we have boobs! I completely understand that sometimes moms simply don’t want to or can’t though, and I don’t think they should be attacked like they sometimes are.

    But then again, like I said previously, I have had a very positive public nursing experience so I haven’t had to go through what some breastfeeding moms have as far as comments, etc.

  21. Tiffany says

    I agree with #12 & 13. As there is nothing wrong with breastfeeding your child I do think that if your going to do it be respectful of the people around you. My 7 year old does not need to see breasts flopping everywhere. I have a sister in law who is not discreet whatsoever. She whips it out and feeds her kid in front of anyone who is around. Mind you, her child is 2 and asks for it. “I need a boob” is what he says. He cant drink from a tippy cup yet because she only nurses him. I just think that since it is a bonding and personal time with your child it should be just that. Personal. All people have to do is cover up (jacket, blanket, etc.) and everyone would be happy. It is the few who are not considerate to others that ruin it for the rest of the breastfeeding moms out there.

  22. says

    I -like #6- choose not to breastfeed my children and I also felt like everyone judged me for not “doing the natural thing”. My childred turned out healthy and happy. I don’t care if a mother breastfeeds in public. That doesn’t bother me at all. But I don’t want my 13 year old son to see that. 13 year old boys don’t understand “natural”. They understand that they just saw a lady’s boob. I think it’s ok only if you cover up with a blanket or something.

  23. Julie says

    When you’re a breast feeding mom, you feed your child whenever they’re hungry. There should be no debate, no dirty looks. Whenever I see a woman breastfeeding while she’s out at the mall or wherever, I think it’s beautiful. It’s the closest,most natual moment for a mother and her child, and it should be viewed with respect. Instead of being offended, these people should feel lucky to be witnessing such a miracle.

  24. Danielle says

    I think there should only be a problem if a mother ISN’T feeding her child.
    Whether it be via breast OR bottle, everyone else should just mind their own bussiness and be thankful these children are being feed because in many countries in this world, babies starve and its a reality.
    People need to respect a mothers right to feed her child, whatever method she choose to do this through.

  25. Mari says

    I can’t believe this is such an issue. As long as one is being discreet about it, then people who are uncomfortable should just turn away. It’s not like breastfeeding moms are whipping their tops off and putting on a show for the world!

    I am breastfeeding my 7 month old and the most uncomfortable bf’ing in public experience was at a packed gate at the Toronto airport. There were no seats anywhere and the only free one was beside an elderly Muslim man. I finally sat beside him and just turned my back to him and used a scarf to cover up. I don’t think he even noticed what I was doing until my DD finished and I sat her up to burp. No comments, no dirty looks, to my surprise.

  26. gina says

    I never breast feed my daughter (not through choice) but why oh why do so many people think it is ok to make so many mums feel bad for doing something so natural. its getting tiring. these people who are moanin need to seriously get over them selves. it is natural and healthy and if you dont like it, tuff, there are a lot worse things happening in the world

  27. Kat says

    I am so sick of this even being a debate. I have an 8 month old who is still breastfed, and I am very much a breastfeeding advocate, but if you don’t breast feed, whatever. But this crap with women being told to not breastfeed, or to go into the BATHROOM to feed your child?!? This is bull$h!t. These prudes need to lighten up and let us do what is best for us and our children. Get over it, and MYOB.

  28. KMisaHO says

    I personally decided NOT to breastfeed any of my children. I simply NEVER had the urge to. When I was in the hospital with my first child, I was made to feel like a bad mother by all the nurses (and the 24 hour breastfeeding channel on t.v.)… like I was unfit for not “giving my baby the best!” I have always resented being made to feel that way. You breastfeeding mothers think your being discriminated against…try being a mother who doesn’t breast feed! (Oh…and by the way, my bottle feed son got his first cold at the ripe old age of 19 months and neither one of my children (ages 4 & almost 3) have ever had an ear infection! (knock on wood) …Even without being breastfed, they have awesome immune systems!)

  29. Jenn says

    It so strange to see articles like that because I feel like it’s actually being normalized as nursing is becoming more popular again. I mean, my favorite celeb baby website even has it’s own breastfeeding category! for those interested.

    As a nursing mother myself, I have had some looks, but I’ve had a lot more smiles and even had one mom come up to me and say ‘Good for you for giving your baby the best.’ I think I glowed for days, lol.

  30. Anon says

    As someone who’s currently breastfeeding I always try to be discreet, as do all the other mothers I see, but if someone else sees too much than they’re looking too hard!

  31. Boo says

    Absolutely… feed away, I breastfed both of my kids and in Public… I couldn’t give 2 shits if someone didn’t like it… if my baby was hungry I was gonna feed him… period end of discussion…Mind you I always used a blanket or something to cover up..but if a mom doesn’t have one handy and needs to feed her hungry baby… then she shouldn’t have to worry about people complaining… it’s a natural part of life….Almost every woman will go through it and almost every man will watch his wife do it… what’s the big deal.

  32. says

    LOL Has it been too quiet web mistress?

    Nothing is innocent in this crazy world especially when it involves breasts, sad really but that’s what corruption has brought.
    I agree If you don’t like it don’t look! If these people weren’t complaining about seeing my boob (mind you they obviously looked) then you’d be complaining about my crying hungry child!?! Pick your battles…

  33. Jessie says

    WTF! Why the heck do people even care! Those are the kinds of people that have nothing better to do than to whine about anything! Babies eat a lot each day and yeah it might have to occur on an airplane or in a public place! If you don’t like it, don’t look!

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